Menyoyang or Nyoyang is one of the traditions existed in Lombok island, especially in North Lombok. It is the tradition to celebrate the death of people. Most of people in North Lombok said the word Menyoyang is the same with Nyawekang or to finalize.
Menyoyang itself is a final tradition after the several ones, starting from the third day’s ritual after the death which is called Nelung, the seven day’s ritual which is called Mituq, the nine days’ ritual after the death called Nyiwaq, and the ritual after the forty days of death which is called Metang Dase, but it also can directly proceed to ‘Menyoyang’ or the final ritual. Basically, these all rituals are formed in the occasion and consisted of prayers based on the religions.
In the former of time, most of people celebrate Menyoyang after the 1000 days of the death. However, as the time goes by, this tradition can be done in two weeks after the death or more. And since it is the final occasion, it should be the biggest event and sometimes cost much.
Basically the stages and the provisions of Menyoyang are the same in all religions. However, in Buddhist, there is one sacred ritual done within the tradition called "Ngalu melekat" or picking up the dead soul to involve in this final ritual. This ritual only can be done after several stages, starting from Gegantungan’s day or placing the earth’s crops into Ringgak- a place made from woven bamboo- in the gazebo which is done in the evening. After this procession, there should be done roah or prayers. During this procession as well, there should be done a procession called Melolongin or preparing the complete clothes aimed for the dead soul that should be brought in the next morning.
Singgrati, an elder figure of Buddhist in Tegal Maja village stated that the procession of picking up the dead soul is done in the second day of Menyoyang. It can be done around at 10.am. The one who should pick up the dead soul must have the same sex with the dead people, and must be still unmarried person. The methods of picking up the dead soul are also applied based on the distance between the grave’s location and their house. If the grave is close, she or he needs to walk on foot.
“During the procession of picking up the dead soul, a roah or prayer is also performed. And the dead soul itself is picked up from the grave to berugak kekelat, or the place in where this Menyoyang ritual is done.” Said he, yesterday.
Picture of a family in a ritual of 'picking up the dead soul'/ lombokmagazine.com
After the ritual of picking up the dead soul is done, the peak of the event called Pelepasan- is also held. Pelepasan aimed to let the soul go in sincere and pray for their peace. This procession also consists of donating the necessities of life of the deceased who have died; including the crops, clothes, and other needs. And then the occasion proceeded by the final one held on the third day, which is called "Ngatong melekat" or delivering the dead soul back to his or her grave.
“So every procession needs roah or prayers, and the things needed are the same. Foods and beverages must be provided.” He added.